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Sometimes, You Have to Let Them Go
There was a time when I was vehemently opposed to the idea of cutting certain people off in your life. To an extent, I would say that I still am actually, however, the conclusion I’ve come to is that I am much more for the build of a healthy purpose-driven life than I am against an uninspired, disorderly life.
In the last several months, I’ve had to come to terms with this in my own life. I had a person I held close to my heart, who actually refused to respect me as a person, my right to self-identify and my right to proper representation. Of the many things that led to the dissolution of our relationship, their decided use of an improper spelling of my name is the most consistent and memorable offence. I think it’s interesting to look back on the ways we’ve defended the very behaviours we ask those closest to us to refrain from practising. In my case, I had been very clear with this person about the negative impact that certain things they said and did were having on me, yet I continued to allow them in my personal space while they chose to actively ignore my concerns.
Eventually, we got to a point where I simply could not tolerate it anymore. Part of me believes I ought to be a bit firmer in my approach from the start, however, I understand that real life is…
